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23: Matthew Shepard

Matthew Shepard died 23 years ago today.

Another year has ticked by.

Another moment to pause and reflect on Matthew Shepard.

One remarkable thing about Matthew Shepard is that he continues to be present in society – I was scrolling through Facebook last week and I noticed that Indiana University Credit Union (my primary […]

Whatchamacallit 104: tommy

I’m not really a cologne person – or as one of my friends calls perfumes and colognes, “smells.”

This bottle of tommy is one of three smells that I own – and I rarely wear it.

But when I smell it, it takes me back to the first time.

He wore it.

Consequently, for […]

Wouldn’t it be nice if everybody had to come out? Thoughts on Raising my Rainbow.

I just finished reading Raising My Rainbow: Adventures in Raising a Fabulous, Gender Creative Son, by Lori Duron. She chronicles her experiences raising her youngest son, CJ, who, despite being a boy, loves all things Barbie, pink, and fabulous.

He abhors boy things.

The book is really fantastic – in part because she does not […]

He wears 98: Jason Collins and why Matthew Shepard still matters.

Yesterday evening, while I was busy working on a project, two friends let me know that an NBA player had come out as gay.

Jason Collins, a 34-year-old, free agent, basketball player took the leap out of the closet in the pages of Sports Illustrated.

It’s cool and I would have let it float past […]

The Soldier Tells His Mom.

It goes much more roughly than telling Dad.

Reflecting on September 20th, and more importantly, coming out.

Yesterday I admitted a bit of ambivalence when it comes to the subject of gays in the military, and it’s mainly driven by the fact that, in general, I’m ambivalent about the military.

Certainly I will admit that it plays an important role in protecting the United States, even as, at the same time, I […]

Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell’s over: Telling Dad

Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell, Don’t Matter No More

Today, September 20th, is actually a pretty remarkable day for the United States: no longer do gay or lesbian soldiers need to hide in the closet.

Despite my personal ambivalence on the subject (I’m not really interested in being shot nor do I want other hunky gays shot), it does please me that people can […]

always hard 2 red

I must come out of the closet: I am a spelling and grammar Taliban.

Maybe that’s a bit too dramatic. I’m not perfect and I do take shortcuts along the way.

Ultimately my goal is to communicate ideas—and each as clear as possible.

I’ve ceded some strict middle- and high-school rules. I’m not as insistent […]

Ten Years On

Ten years ago I was still living in Laramie, Wyoming, and only tentatively sticking my head outside the closet door (Yes CQ; I know what you want to say, but let’s stick with my internal narrative).

In that era I couldn’t imagine myself going out and dancing anywhere-the idea of drinking and dancing was beyond […]